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Who is right..mom or dad??


My husband and I have 2 daughters..11 and 8. It always seems when its time to discipline them I just CANT do it. Whether its taking away a privilege or popping their hand. I have never been able to do it. I feel like they may be stsrting to run over me. Does anyone have any helpful or encouraging thoughts...
Sep 28, 2018 @ 03:35 pm

13 Replies


You simply must..

I don't know your story but I just have to say, when your girls are teenagers, you'll regret not establishing yourself as an authority figure. Absolutely no offense intended! I have 4 kids, a 12 yr old boy on the brink of teenage angst, a 9 yr old girl, and boy/girl twins, aged 6. Discipline was one of the hardest lessons I had to learn. Everything still isn't perfect but I have a much tighter reign than when I started. I used to be the mom that relied on, "You just wait until your dad gets home!" But that only works so long and always puts it back on Dad, therein making him " the bad guy". That's not fair to Dad, or you. You have it within yourself to be strong and tough with your girls. When it comes time for discipline, remember, you are doing them, yourself, dad, and society, a huge favor. It can be done! Hang in there and most importantly, believe in yourself!
Oct 01, 2018 @ 05:05 am

Disapline is important

I know a father that never disaplined his daughter and as she got older she found out if she cried and made a fit she would get her way. And now shes spoiled and ended up calling child services because he tried to disapline her once and she ended up running away from home in the end. As a parent i feel its our responsibility to show our kids if they do something wrong theirs going to be a outcome their not going to like. Taking toys away, phone, standing in a corner for a certain amount of time etc. Then once they behave they earn their reward...picking out a toy. I hope this helps! Goodluck and keep me posted!!
Oct 02, 2018 @ 11:47 am


Tough one! Don't make the hubby the bad guy all the time. I just think it should be shared by both parents. Reinforce one another. Children need to learn consequences for their behavior. Better for them to learn it at home by their parents, than having to learn it the hard way once they are grown.
Oct 02, 2018 @ 01:07 pm

Being the bad guy is no fun but......

Its your Responsibility to teach your children, and unfortunately that means discipline. Your not there to be your child's friend. One of my favorite sayings is, " teach your kids now, so society doesn't have to deal with them later"
Oct 06, 2018 @ 04:40 pm

Feel you!

I know how u feel husband says I'm to nice but I think he's to tuff lol never common ground I just hate being the bad guy in so sensitive
Oct 11, 2018 @ 04:01 pm


raising childen can be very difficukt. i also use presentise and never give in. also having the hubby agree with you help too. my kids always tried the ask mom or dad . they would try to play us against each other child phychology
helps too.
Nov 13, 2018 @ 05:05 pm


I tend to struggle in this department as well. Although, I feel I follow through on my "threats", I know I'm not as stern as their dad. I do think it's all about the follow through, and a consequence everytime, not just once in awhile. Good luck! I'll keep trying with my two!
Nov 30, 2018 @ 05:10 pm


Both parents
Dec 20, 2018 @ 06:13 am

Which parent is right?

I feel as though both mom and dad are right at various times, depending on the issue at hand. It all depends on what's being discussed, what you're trying to achieve as the outcome, as well as which child the matter concerns sometimes. Each situation is different and requires a different perspective each time, so sometimes mom is right, and sometimes dad is right. I think as long as the issue gets resolved in the best way possible, for everyone involved,then that's what matters most. Not who is necessarily "right" or "wrong."
Dec 26, 2018 @ 10:32 am

Which parent is right?

If you don't discipline your child they can become spoiled and walk over you. Especially when they are teenager. It shouldn't have to be one parent who takes away a toy or put time out because then they will walk all over the other parent .
Dec 26, 2018 @ 04:37 pm

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